Marriage can be saved for any problem. The destruction of marriage does not happen overnight. There must be a process before the destruction occurred. The process can be divided into four stages, from the lowest level of danger to the most high. By recognizing the stages of the danger that we can know the state of our marriage, so they can anticipate and resolve problems that might occur.
Phase I: Incidence Disorders, Signs:
• You say to yourself, 'little problems like that really brought up'
• You start to feel annoyed at the attitude or the words of her husband.
• You are reluctant to express your frustration to your husband.
Many people (especially women) who deliberately help but feel disappointed or upset to avoid conflict. And by avoiding the conflict he was unable to find a solution to the problem. In addition, her partner did not know that he had a problem.
The first stage is actually the easiest to overcome, because not too severe. The most fundamental step is to talk directly with the husband. For example, with pillow-talk techniques. He could convey the contents of his heart at bedtime or while lying in a relaxed atmosphere.
Phase II: The emergence of Pain Anger, Signs:
• Loss of enthusiasm for sex.
• Feeling loved, appreciated, understood.
• From a distance with her husband.
Stage of this danger grows because the signals at the first stage is negligible. Accumulated resentment that can make you angry. Suppressing anger means to curb the emotions. This is dangerous, because the passion for making love can be lost and an intimate relationship with her husband have started not comfortable anymore. To overcome this there is no way other than anger that erode the layer stack.
Phase III: Be Rejecting, Signs:
• No longer dependent on their husbands.
• The presence of the husband is considered disruptive.
• emotional relationship with her husband fade
In this stage the couple had 'own way'. From the outside it seems their relationship was fine, when in fact they have no emotional connection anymore. As there are no walls separating them.
To get out of this third threat, required third party assistance. Can the friend's husband, parents, or anyone else. The important thing to her husband's respect and listen to his advice. If it is deemed appropriate person does not exist, inevitably you are advised to see a marriage counselor.
Phase IV: No longer matter, Signs:
• Start lazy disagree or quarrel
This is the most dangerous stage in the marriage. The strange, so marriage until this stage, which was captured by the general impression is the opposite. This couple could be the envy of anyone who saw it. They look harmonious, full of understanding and mutual respect as an argument never even had a big fight. It turns out it was all a mask. They seem to appreciate each other, when in fact they've been lazy to different opinions.
Couples who from the outside looks very vulnerable indeed ripe. As soon as one felt there was no longer a need to maintain the bonds of marriage can break away. But that does not mean couples who arrive at this stage could not make up anymore. Originally there is a will to improve, there remains a road.
You can see from many cases of separation happened, they did not have the same vision. Do not let all the dangers that threaten your marriage. The desire that comes from the two sides to maintain the marriage is certainly more solid than that arising unilaterally.
