Sabtu, 01 Januari 2011

Formation Process Inner Child Discipline

Children's self-discipline is a product of discipline. Discipline requires a learning process. At the beginning of the learning process necessary to the efforts of parents. This can be done by:
(1) Train
(2) Getting used to behave in accordance with the values based on moral reference. If a child has been trained and accustomed to behave in accordance with moral values then,
(3) the need for parental controls to develop it.

Third attempt is called an external control. Control of democracy and openness makes it easier for children to internalize moral values. These external controls can create a world unity that will become an essential requirement of appreciation shared between parent and child. Thus, self-discipline is a behavior that can be accounted for as controlled by moral values are internalized.

In this context, the efforts of parents to raise children's self-control based on religious moral values seyokyanya as defined in the other moral values (the value of social, economic, scientific / learning, democracy, cleanliness and order). In other words, all these moral values as much as possible a reflection of religious values as it gives clear direction to the child and reflect the nuances of religious self-discipline.

Thus, it can be concluded that when the parents in helping children to have self control, meaning they have actually been able to:
(1) helping the child to have self-management,
(2) to intervene in children's self
(3) give positive values to children
(4) provide appropriate punishments.

Thus, every effort made in helping children be preceded by the appearance of absolute:

First. Exemplary behavior. That is, every behavior is not just a behavior that is mechanical, but must be based on the awareness that his behavior would be imitation and identification of land for children. Therefore, pengaktualisasiannya have always aimed at the observance of moral values, especially when meeting with the children.

Second, self-awareness should also be passed on to her children by encouraging them to obey kesehariaannya behavior moral values. Therefore, parents always helped them to be able to perform self-observation through dialogical communication, both verbally and non verbally about the behavior of moral obedience. Because with this dialogical communication that will bridge the gap, the desire and purpose between him and his children, who often become the trigger of children behaving aggressively or not disciplined.

Third. Dialogical communication that occurs between parents and their children, especially those related to efforts to help them to solve problems, with regard to moral values. This means they have been able to intervene peacefully to errors or irregularities that do not obey the behavior of moral values and have made efforts to how to improve it. In other words, parents have been able to control the behavior of their children so that they still have and improve moral values as the basis for a disciplined behavior.

Through these controls, meaning parents have been doing supervision and guidance to their children to behave in accordance with moral values. These controls also contains parental controls on the association of children with their peers so as not to engage in dialogue with new values that conflict with religious moral values. In the control children's behavior, parents can impose penalties, if it is felt it is necessary to sensitize children on behavior-behavior that deviates so it can realign.

Fourth, further efforts to enrich children's adherence to moral values can diaktualisasikannya in managing the physical environment which is called physical moments. This can support the creation of a climate that invites children in dialogue on moral values are packed for example, the wall hangings, mushalla, cabinets or bookshelves containing religious books that reflect the breath of religion, the room is clean, orderly, and items are arranged neatly reflect the breath of order and cleanliness, settings where learning and quiet atmosphere that reflects the breath of comfort and tranquility in conducting learning; selection of homes to enable children with moral values.

Fifth, the arrangement of physical environment which involves children and departed from his world would make children stronger in the possession of moral values and the invitees to improve it. This happens if parents can seek the kids for getting close and intimate with moral values. Efforts can be flashed by managing the social environment because the arrangement can be packaged moral values in the pattern of family relationships, communication, teamwork and the indications of education. Setup is a realization of parents in the account for his role, namely to provide assistance to foster self-control child. Accordingly, in managing the social environment, parents are required to create a pattern of communication between family members who charged moral values. This communication pattern can be done through movement, touch, caress, a smile, expression, or expression of words.

Communication patterns can make family members become more familiar, have each other, and feel safe within the family.

Sixth, the arrangement of the social environment to bring the situation of togetherness among the children with parents. Situation of togetherness is the main prerequisite for the creation of appreciation and a meeting between parents and children.

Seventh, the arrangement of the educational environment will be more meaningful to children if it is able to present a climate that encourages mental state to learn moral values. Efforts can be made by parents is to set the psychological atmosphere in the family. Structuring the psychological atmosphere in the family touching emotional dimension and the accompanying psychological mood and feeling of family life.

Eighth, the arrangement of the arrangement of the psychological atmosphere even stronger if the moral values in a transparent manner described and translated into social order and culture in family life.

Based on the above efforts are needed as a guide in making changes and growth of children, maintain self-esteem, and in maintaining a close relationship between parent and child. Of the three guidelines that require a strategy born of parents have the ability to set the (management) of children, control children, and stimulate the children to behave in accordance with moral reference that is essentially meaningless by the actions of education. Next Combs stated that the assistance provided to parents of children for possession of self-discipline, so as to enable them to be able to: perceive the significance of moral values for themselves, have a positive outlook towards him, reading that has achieved success and give the motivations for increase it, and fostering a sense of community between him and the kids.

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